Sunday, July 31, 2005
Way out of low self-esteem by Jatinder
I have discovered that the way out of this habit of low self-esteem
and self-pity is to stop seeking validation and doing what I want
to do.
Something PlayboyLA also refers to as making your decisions and
taking responsibility for them.
--by Jatinder
and self-pity is to stop seeking validation and doing what I want
to do.
Something PlayboyLA also refers to as making your decisions and
taking responsibility for them.
--by Jatinder
Thursday, July 28, 2005
(Attraction) The fastest way to learn by Energetic
The fastest way to learn
Posted by *EnergetiC* on *October 26, 2004, 2:24 am*
in *Thoughts* ( *a PUA's life*)
Another repost from mASF...
Ok, think back on your high school or college years. Maybe you're still
in them, even better.
What were the classes you did best in, the classes you scored the
highest grades with the least effort? For me, and I'm guessing for you
too, those were the classed that I simply liked doing, the classes I
enjoyed. I've never enjoyed math. I sucked at math. Not so much because
I can't DO math, later on I found out that I actually have some talent
for it, but because I didn't LIKE doing it.
Ok, think back on your high school or college years. Maybe you're
still in them, even better.
What were the classes you did best in, the classes you scored the
highest grades with the least effort? For me, and I'm guessing
for you too, those were the classed that I simply liked doing,
the classes I enjoyed. I've never enjoyed math. I sucked at math.
Not so much because I can't DO math, later on I found out that I
actually have some talent for it, but because I didn't LIKE doing
it. The classes bored me, I had a hard time staying focused and I
didn't do my homework for it. Whenever I got home and wanted to
do my math homework, I'd think back on the classes and would
already feel bored even before I started the homework.
I did great in history-classes though. I loved history. All the
great stories, the discussions on how history affects the
present. I always did my history homework, I know that, but I can
hardly remember ever doing it. That's because it wasn't a 'chore'
to me. I liked doing it.
My math grades sucked. My history grades were always 8's or
higher. In retrospect I can do math as well as history, if I'd
spend the same amount of time on it, with the same focus and
concentration.
So. What made me do so much better at history than at math? One
simple thing: I LOVED IT. I loved doing it, and therefor I had no
trouble staying focused, doing what I had to do to make it work.
The last couple of days I had some talks on IRC with people that
made me think, and then I encountered the same stuff in posts on
mASF (often not directly written, but u can read it between the
lines); some people are not enjoying it. They see sarging and
gaming as a chore, as something they'd rather not do, but must do
because they want to gain skill. Just like I did my math even
though I hated it, because I needed my diploma.
And when you go at it with that attitude, it becomes 10 times as
hard. You will lose focus and motivation, you won't be able to
concentrate on what you need to do and it will simply NOT BE
FUN.
In the past week I finished mt life-plan / mission statement, I
got to watch Future and Hoobie's video's, I got my questions
answered by a guru on live radio, I went sarging with a wing, had
the best time ever and massively improved on the goals I had set
for myself. But the móst important: I am LOVING it! It's the time
of my life. I feel better than ever and that's what makes this so
easy. It doesn't feel like I'm putting an effort into all this.
And it goes way beyond just PUA-stuff. Of course I have to work,
I have to study, I have to clean my house... but when I work, I
think about how getting money will help me on my road to becoming
more skilled with women, how I will be able to afford a nicer
place and the clothes I wanna wear when I go sarging. Even though
I have a really shitty job, I'm loving it for what it will do for
me.
When I study, even when it's a subject I find boring, I still
love it, because it helps me get the diploma, which will get me a
better job, which will help me with my goals... I'm starting to
love every part of my life and that makes it SO much easier to
stay focused, it's almost effortless.
So, when you find yourself thinking of sarging as a 'job' that
has to be done, it might be time to reflect on your goals, on
your inner game, on how to get back the joy in your game (and
maybe your whole life!).
-EC-
Post from : http://whuzz.demon.nl/energetic/blog/index.php
www.energetic.tk
Printed from : http://whuzz.demon.nl/energetic/blog/index.php?id=5
Posted by *EnergetiC* on *October 26, 2004, 2:24 am*
in *Thoughts* ( *a PUA's life*)
Another repost from mASF...
Ok, think back on your high school or college years. Maybe you're still
in them, even better.
What were the classes you did best in, the classes you scored the
highest grades with the least effort? For me, and I'm guessing for you
too, those were the classed that I simply liked doing, the classes I
enjoyed. I've never enjoyed math. I sucked at math. Not so much because
I can't DO math, later on I found out that I actually have some talent
for it, but because I didn't LIKE doing it.
Ok, think back on your high school or college years. Maybe you're
still in them, even better.
What were the classes you did best in, the classes you scored the
highest grades with the least effort? For me, and I'm guessing
for you too, those were the classed that I simply liked doing,
the classes I enjoyed. I've never enjoyed math. I sucked at math.
Not so much because I can't DO math, later on I found out that I
actually have some talent for it, but because I didn't LIKE doing
it. The classes bored me, I had a hard time staying focused and I
didn't do my homework for it. Whenever I got home and wanted to
do my math homework, I'd think back on the classes and would
already feel bored even before I started the homework.
I did great in history-classes though. I loved history. All the
great stories, the discussions on how history affects the
present. I always did my history homework, I know that, but I can
hardly remember ever doing it. That's because it wasn't a 'chore'
to me. I liked doing it.
My math grades sucked. My history grades were always 8's or
higher. In retrospect I can do math as well as history, if I'd
spend the same amount of time on it, with the same focus and
concentration.
So. What made me do so much better at history than at math? One
simple thing: I LOVED IT. I loved doing it, and therefor I had no
trouble staying focused, doing what I had to do to make it work.
The last couple of days I had some talks on IRC with people that
made me think, and then I encountered the same stuff in posts on
mASF (often not directly written, but u can read it between the
lines); some people are not enjoying it. They see sarging and
gaming as a chore, as something they'd rather not do, but must do
because they want to gain skill. Just like I did my math even
though I hated it, because I needed my diploma.
And when you go at it with that attitude, it becomes 10 times as
hard. You will lose focus and motivation, you won't be able to
concentrate on what you need to do and it will simply NOT BE
FUN.
In the past week I finished mt life-plan / mission statement, I
got to watch Future and Hoobie's video's, I got my questions
answered by a guru on live radio, I went sarging with a wing, had
the best time ever and massively improved on the goals I had set
for myself. But the móst important: I am LOVING it! It's the time
of my life. I feel better than ever and that's what makes this so
easy. It doesn't feel like I'm putting an effort into all this.
And it goes way beyond just PUA-stuff. Of course I have to work,
I have to study, I have to clean my house... but when I work, I
think about how getting money will help me on my road to becoming
more skilled with women, how I will be able to afford a nicer
place and the clothes I wanna wear when I go sarging. Even though
I have a really shitty job, I'm loving it for what it will do for
me.
When I study, even when it's a subject I find boring, I still
love it, because it helps me get the diploma, which will get me a
better job, which will help me with my goals... I'm starting to
love every part of my life and that makes it SO much easier to
stay focused, it's almost effortless.
So, when you find yourself thinking of sarging as a 'job' that
has to be done, it might be time to reflect on your goals, on
your inner game, on how to get back the joy in your game (and
maybe your whole life!).
-EC-
Post from : http://whuzz.demon.nl/energetic/blog/index.php
www.energetic.tk
Printed from : http://whuzz.demon.nl/energetic/blog/index.php?id=5
Tuesday, July 19, 2005
Helping Other People?
I was just thinking after talking to a colleague about self-improvement and emotional intelligence...
I told him how wonderful is to improve on that matter, just because mostly of the time has been spent on the rational intelligence
One day I was at his house, and I saw what I thought was a mess (his bedroom), so I felt naturally compelled to just give order to things... WHEN my bedroom is INCOMPLETELY ordered. That's like a "big deal" to me... cause I don't have a clue what exactly to do, where to exactly put everything...
On self-improvement, it'd be good to have well-intentioned people that could give you feedback and really help you get in order your internal thoughts or whatever, and me be able to do the same for them. I think many times we require an extra help to get to that place that alone we've not been able to reach.
I'm gonna keep talkin' about this, I ain't finished. One thing that comes to mind, I probably read it on Mike Brescia's newsletter www.todayisyourdaytowin.com that changing others is probably 50 times more difficult than changing yourself... and to not give advice, they don't wanna hear it, they wont take it either... to instead be a SOUNDING BOARD of what they're saying, and they'll find the solution inside their own heads to whatever they need.
Even if a person's room was a mess, if someone entered and ordered without him asking for it, it'd be an insult.
Don't give advice to people, just don't do it. Keep your powerful stuff to yourself. Keep it to only you. But I'd agree on talking about whatever you wanna talk about.
'nuff said
I told him how wonderful is to improve on that matter, just because mostly of the time has been spent on the rational intelligence
One day I was at his house, and I saw what I thought was a mess (his bedroom), so I felt naturally compelled to just give order to things... WHEN my bedroom is INCOMPLETELY ordered. That's like a "big deal" to me... cause I don't have a clue what exactly to do, where to exactly put everything...
On self-improvement, it'd be good to have well-intentioned people that could give you feedback and really help you get in order your internal thoughts or whatever, and me be able to do the same for them. I think many times we require an extra help to get to that place that alone we've not been able to reach.
I'm gonna keep talkin' about this, I ain't finished. One thing that comes to mind, I probably read it on Mike Brescia's newsletter www.todayisyourdaytowin.com that changing others is probably 50 times more difficult than changing yourself... and to not give advice, they don't wanna hear it, they wont take it either... to instead be a SOUNDING BOARD of what they're saying, and they'll find the solution inside their own heads to whatever they need.
Even if a person's room was a mess, if someone entered and ordered without him asking for it, it'd be an insult.
Don't give advice to people, just don't do it. Keep your powerful stuff to yourself. Keep it to only you. But I'd agree on talking about whatever you wanna talk about.
'nuff said
Sunday, July 17, 2005
(Attraction) Reversing the cycle
This post is from a year ago by Alessandro, in response to a post by goldenboy on mASF
Here's the Link it came from
Here's the Link it came from
| topic: | Re: 6 day to expand toolbox and really start sarging (2 of 4), Read 619 times |
| board: | >> Missions |
| from: | Alessandro (first login: November, 30, 2001 05:27 PM) |
| date: | Friday, October 15, 2004 04:57 PM |
goldenboy wrote:
> Hey guys,
> I've spend the last couple of weeks working through Thundercat's and Swingcat's
I came into contact with Swingcat's book a few months ago, and skimmed
through a few sections while at a friend's house. It has got to be one
of the most underrated works on PU, specially for experienced guys. The
core ideas are there in MrSex's archive and Rio's, but his take on the
ages old rocks-gold theory was very good. At least I thought he did
great explaining things.
> books and expanding my toolbox so that I can hold conversations longer than 3
> minutes where I only stack two or three openers.
Conversation is a funny thing. If you find yourself unable to say more
than a few things, or if you run out of steam after some time, that is
MAJOR sign of lack of confidence. There must be some primitive instinct
that forces us into silence when in the company of people we perceive to
be of higher "value" (whatever that maybe) than us. It is just our way
of saying "I can't top whatever you said".
I was talking to an ASF bro last weekend and he said he had nothing to
say. Well, guess what, talkative people don't usually have anything to
say either, they're just more forward about expressing their thoughts,
even if they have to sigh aloud "I AM BORED".
Low self-esteem people think they need to contribute postively to the
discussion; they value the interaction. While high-self esteem people
(not necessary intelligent) don't think that highly of talking to
others, and they don't feel obliged to keep up a good vibe so they end
up talking the whole time saying whatever shit that crosses their mind.
In turn, LSE people interpret the bluntness of the HSEs as a crack at
humor ("I can't believe he said that!") and find that admirable and
funny. The cycle continues, while one gains in social value, the other
feels ever more left out :-(
You can reverse this cycle, I did, just don't give a fuck.
> In 6 days there is a big college party again and that night I will field-test
> all the material I will have collected until then so that I can practice my
> delivery and going from one routine to another.
Personally, it takes me three nights to get back into PU shape: First
night, do nothing but comedy; games sets, make them laugh, drink, be the
life of the party. Second night, game hot chicks, get social proof, some
make outs. Third night, I tone it all down and approach maybe a girl or
two in the whole night, but it is very profitable.
Last week was supposed to be Night-1, but I quickly found myself getting
good again and I started getting make-outs right around midnight :-)
>
> As indicated above, it will be the first time that I'm doing more material than
> just stacking two or three openers, i.e. it is planned to be the beginning of a
> real PUA lifestyle where I go sarging multiple times a week and make the
> necessary adjustments all the time.
Good.
[snip]
> - 6 openers (Gay Opener, Hair Dye Opener, Are You Shy Opener [Swingcat],
> Cheating Roommate Opener [Swingcat], pervert opener [Swingcat], Marilyn Manson
> vs. Michael Jackson Opener [personal])
> - 2 storie (personal follow-up stories for Gay Opener and Hair Dye Opener, need
> to construct more follow-up stories)
> - cold-reading (have several examples in my personal archives)
> - 2 tests (Expanded Best Friends Test, Swingcat's adventurousness test [maybe
> not a test but it qualifies them)
> - 1 routine (Swingcat's kiss close routine)
>
> What do you think of my temporary and incomplete toolbox so far? Is it possible
> to say whether it's enough material to do predictable *-"closes"?
You wont need to talk that much just make out with chicks; it should be
easier if you STFU and just laughed at her, and asked her if she is a
Smurfette or some shit. Try it, you will see it's not so hard.
I've practiced this concept of 'not giving a fuck'. I like it, since I'm able to now say whatever comes to mind very quickly and feeling great about it.
This is a topic I'd like to keep on exploring, because it gives me a fresh breath of air.
> Hey guys,
> I've spend the last couple of weeks working through Thundercat's and Swingcat's
I came into contact with Swingcat's book a few months ago, and skimmed
through a few sections while at a friend's house. It has got to be one
of the most underrated works on PU, specially for experienced guys. The
core ideas are there in MrSex's archive and Rio's, but his take on the
ages old rocks-gold theory was very good. At least I thought he did
great explaining things.
> books and expanding my toolbox so that I can hold conversations longer than 3
> minutes where I only stack two or three openers.
Conversation is a funny thing. If you find yourself unable to say more
than a few things, or if you run out of steam after some time, that is
MAJOR sign of lack of confidence. There must be some primitive instinct
that forces us into silence when in the company of people we perceive to
be of higher "value" (whatever that maybe) than us. It is just our way
of saying "I can't top whatever you said".
I was talking to an ASF bro last weekend and he said he had nothing to
say. Well, guess what, talkative people don't usually have anything to
say either, they're just more forward about expressing their thoughts,
even if they have to sigh aloud "I AM BORED".
Low self-esteem people think they need to contribute postively to the
discussion; they value the interaction. While high-self esteem people
(not necessary intelligent) don't think that highly of talking to
others, and they don't feel obliged to keep up a good vibe so they end
up talking the whole time saying whatever shit that crosses their mind.
In turn, LSE people interpret the bluntness of the HSEs as a crack at
humor ("I can't believe he said that!") and find that admirable and
funny. The cycle continues, while one gains in social value, the other
feels ever more left out :-(
You can reverse this cycle, I did, just don't give a fuck.
> In 6 days there is a big college party again and that night I will field-test
> all the material I will have collected until then so that I can practice my
> delivery and going from one routine to another.
Personally, it takes me three nights to get back into PU shape: First
night, do nothing but comedy; games sets, make them laugh, drink, be the
life of the party. Second night, game hot chicks, get social proof, some
make outs. Third night, I tone it all down and approach maybe a girl or
two in the whole night, but it is very profitable.
Last week was supposed to be Night-1, but I quickly found myself getting
good again and I started getting make-outs right around midnight :-)
>
> As indicated above, it will be the first time that I'm doing more material than
> just stacking two or three openers, i.e. it is planned to be the beginning of a
> real PUA lifestyle where I go sarging multiple times a week and make the
> necessary adjustments all the time.
Good.
[snip]
> - 6 openers (Gay Opener, Hair Dye Opener, Are You Shy Opener [Swingcat],
> Cheating Roommate Opener [Swingcat], pervert opener [Swingcat], Marilyn Manson
> vs. Michael Jackson Opener [personal])
> - 2 storie (personal follow-up stories for Gay Opener and Hair Dye Opener, need
> to construct more follow-up stories)
> - cold-reading (have several examples in my personal archives)
> - 2 tests (Expanded Best Friends Test, Swingcat's adventurousness test [maybe
> not a test but it qualifies them)
> - 1 routine (Swingcat's kiss close routine)
>
> What do you think of my temporary and incomplete toolbox so far? Is it possible
> to say whether it's enough material to do predictable *-"closes"?
You wont need to talk that much just make out with chicks; it should be
easier if you STFU and just laughed at her, and asked her if she is a
Smurfette or some shit. Try it, you will see it's not so hard.
I've practiced this concept of 'not giving a fuck'. I like it, since I'm able to now say whatever comes to mind very quickly and feeling great about it.
This is a topic I'd like to keep on exploring, because it gives me a fresh breath of air.
Tuesday, July 12, 2005
Yo en Exposición de Software Libre en MACZUL 2005
I love this picture! I didn't know it was taken until I got to the website:
http://www.salondeartedigital.com/index2.html
It made my day... :)
Friday, July 08, 2005
Quote from BG (I)
A Correction...
Some posts ago I wrote about reading a book to get your sleep going...
Well I stopped doing that, I tried that for some days...
That just doesn't work. In fact, is counter-productive to your sleep mechanism...
I read it on www.powerfulsleep.com
Got that eBook on getting more quality sleep.
So, if you can, don't read books on your bed, use it for sleeping purposes as possible
Well I stopped doing that, I tried that for some days...
That just doesn't work. In fact, is counter-productive to your sleep mechanism...
I read it on www.powerfulsleep.com
Got that eBook on getting more quality sleep.
So, if you can, don't read books on your bed, use it for sleeping purposes as possible
Monday, July 04, 2005
Quote from David DeAngelo (I)
If you chase a woman, she will usually run
-- David Deangelo
