Tuesday, July 19, 2005
Helping Other People?
I was just thinking after talking to a colleague about self-improvement and emotional intelligence...
I told him how wonderful is to improve on that matter, just because mostly of the time has been spent on the rational intelligence
One day I was at his house, and I saw what I thought was a mess (his bedroom), so I felt naturally compelled to just give order to things... WHEN my bedroom is INCOMPLETELY ordered. That's like a "big deal" to me... cause I don't have a clue what exactly to do, where to exactly put everything...
On self-improvement, it'd be good to have well-intentioned people that could give you feedback and really help you get in order your internal thoughts or whatever, and me be able to do the same for them. I think many times we require an extra help to get to that place that alone we've not been able to reach.
I'm gonna keep talkin' about this, I ain't finished. One thing that comes to mind, I probably read it on Mike Brescia's newsletter www.todayisyourdaytowin.com that changing others is probably 50 times more difficult than changing yourself... and to not give advice, they don't wanna hear it, they wont take it either... to instead be a SOUNDING BOARD of what they're saying, and they'll find the solution inside their own heads to whatever they need.
Even if a person's room was a mess, if someone entered and ordered without him asking for it, it'd be an insult.
Don't give advice to people, just don't do it. Keep your powerful stuff to yourself. Keep it to only you. But I'd agree on talking about whatever you wanna talk about.
'nuff said
I told him how wonderful is to improve on that matter, just because mostly of the time has been spent on the rational intelligence
One day I was at his house, and I saw what I thought was a mess (his bedroom), so I felt naturally compelled to just give order to things... WHEN my bedroom is INCOMPLETELY ordered. That's like a "big deal" to me... cause I don't have a clue what exactly to do, where to exactly put everything...
On self-improvement, it'd be good to have well-intentioned people that could give you feedback and really help you get in order your internal thoughts or whatever, and me be able to do the same for them. I think many times we require an extra help to get to that place that alone we've not been able to reach.
I'm gonna keep talkin' about this, I ain't finished. One thing that comes to mind, I probably read it on Mike Brescia's newsletter www.todayisyourdaytowin.com that changing others is probably 50 times more difficult than changing yourself... and to not give advice, they don't wanna hear it, they wont take it either... to instead be a SOUNDING BOARD of what they're saying, and they'll find the solution inside their own heads to whatever they need.
Even if a person's room was a mess, if someone entered and ordered without him asking for it, it'd be an insult.
Don't give advice to people, just don't do it. Keep your powerful stuff to yourself. Keep it to only you. But I'd agree on talking about whatever you wanna talk about.
'nuff said
# posted by TerreLite : 3:18 AM
