Friday, September 23, 2005
(outlink) Confidence Overdrive!
Confidence Overdrive!
We have all heard of psychologist and support groups telling people that they must express their feelings by letting them out, because keeping your feelings to yourself, in other words "bottled up", will cause them to build up and grow. This works under the same principles. However, your goal will be to let your feelings build up on purpose by forcing yourself to keep your experiences "bottled up". Let me explain...
Whenever you tell someone about your conquests with women by saying something along the lines of "Remember that girl who gave me her number at the bar last week? I slept with her last night" you are subconsciously lowering the importance of the particular event in your mind. The act of having to "prove yourself" to other people by making your prowess known is actually a display of insecurity, and in the back of our minds we all know that to be true.
If you NEVER tell anyone about your personal life, you will notice that your self confidence will shoot through the roof! This works as a continuous cycle of confidence building because of the "building up" factor, which will continue to raise your confidence level rapidly as long as you always keep everything to yourself. So if you go on a trip to the Bahamas and end up getting with a super model or movie star, keep your mouth shut. The rewards are much better than being able to tell a good story to your friends.
You should start by developing a state of mind in which you could care less about other people knowing your business. You know where you've been and what you've done, and that is all that matters. Once you have achieved this you will no longer need to "prove yourself" to anyone, because they will think highly of you simply because of the confidence you display.
# posted by TerreLite : 3:08 PM
