What's the journey? To Enjoy it!

Just like 2 days ago, it's around 6.30 am. and I just can't help it but be inspired and curious. This is the time when the feeling that I got it, I got it, it's right here! I got it, I got a realization. And I'm getting many, yesterday was a day of breakthroughs.

This comes back to approaching a situation. Let's say for example a woman. I've been there where "I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO FEEL OVERLY ATTRACTED AND INTERESTED" just to go talk to her... I of course am finding better ways. Just talking to her is a little sign of interest. I thought I had to emotionally, physically, intellectualy show that my interest or attraction for her was greater than mine to her. That is how I'm viewing it right now how I used to think. This may be a discovering.

So, the way I am is turning into a person who approaches women as a natural part of his life. This person I'm becoming is one who constantly meets new women, gets new numbers and email addresses weekly, is very comfortable about the idea of interacting and getting fun from even an interaction that turned out a little less posible than usual. In fact, this person I'm becoming goes ROTFL when these funny situations happens. I'm waiting for weird reactions from a woman as great things to have in my mind to remind on like "do you remember that time when you said that thing and she went all wild??" kindda.

I have to make a break here and say I'm profoundly influenced by David DeAngelo's teachings. Interpret any similarity in writing as just myself following his tip of modelling successful people, and people you like and admire.

So, to the point that my mind is getting to is this one. I have the oppinion that there are 2 kinds of approach: 1. All focused on putting all your energy on it 2. Being aloof and relying on confidence, not spreading valuable self-energy and letting the other person give to you their energy. Just entering and letting them welcome our world. Relaxing.

I truly love when people got things to say...

I've found it rare in the past, but it's happening more, and I can see the pattern.

I love to let people fill in the space of the conversation and give their input

I months ago understood what it meant people needing attention. I was at this house with the kids of a coleague, and as I was throwing in some comments, I watched one of the kids say something, and the others also tried to get our attention like so needy and desperate. It wasn't even playful, it was that they needed our validation, ourselves being the authority figures and persons of high value. I can now see that and have a private joke of "I SEE YOU!!!!!". I was hanging out with a friend, and his son came in, as I perceived his son said things I KNEW he wanted to be heard like I'M HERE!!!!!! HELLO!!!.... so I came up with saying "I SEE YOU!!!" and pointing at him joyfully.

Anyways, the reason I'm putting this anecdote here is it probably relates to the approach... from the 2 types of approach Number 1 approach is like "CAN YOU SEE ME??? HELLO???" all doubtful and seeking validation.

Number 2 approach is like "hello you, i can see you, of course you can see me, if you are secure enough to talk to me great"

i'm laughing and relaxed anyways. I have enough control that I am relaxed the whole time...

Now, with this approach she'll probably go like "CAN YOU SEE ME?" and I'll be like "it's blurry" or something like that :-P If she's a real woman then we'll have fun... big time!

Why would I be nervous with ANYONE? Crazy... :-S... the single thought of being nervous just makes me laugh